Domestic Violence
Over 2.5 million women experience violence each year. Although women are more likely to experience violent acts committed against them, men are also victims in some cases. A relative, intimate friend, or stranger usually commits violence against women, but 2/3 of the female victims are related to or know the attacker. One third of the attacks involve a weapon, and only half of the victims report the crime to the police because most consider it to be a private or personal matter.
Sexism can be blamed for the attitudes and behaviors related to violence against women. It is an attitude that women are less powerful and privileged than men. In some societies, women are considered to be property. Even men in the U.S. who consider themselves to be powerful and superior, may see their female partners as ornaments and possessions. It is this kind of attitude and thinking that becomes discriminatory and opens the door to violent acts. Often the abuser commits violence in an effort to control the victim.
People often stay in unhealthy and violent relationships because they feel that the abuser needs them somehow, or will get better with more love. Victims make excuses for their abusers and often take the blame for the abuser's actions. "He didn't mean it. I made him mad when I didn't …" In any case, there is never any excuse for physically or emotionally hurting another human being, and the situation doesn't get better without some sort of help and intervention. The first step is to believe that you are valuable enough to save and change your life.
What to Do:
DON'T DELAY! If you, a friend, or loved one is a victim of domestic violence, please get help immediately. All the excuses in the world won't protect you. There are clean, safe, confidential, comfortable shelters for victims of domestic violence. You will receive free counseling, housing, job placement, and other necessary assistance in these supportive environments. An SMCC counselor can assist you in finding a shelter for you and your children. To make an appointment to see a counselor, call (602) 305-5608. Counselors can also refer you or your loved one to a mental health professional who specializes in domestic violence.
If you want to help, and have a special place in your heart for victims of domestic violence, consider taking Behavioral Health Science (BHS) skill-building courses. SMCC offers BHS266 - Violence & Abuse Counseling Techniques, and BHS267 - Violence & Abuse Matters (an information course). See the SMCC Class Schedule for dates and times when these courses are offered in the summer, fall, and spring semesters.
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